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Therapy for Motivation

You are chasing a rabbit, a fox and a polar bear.
Sorry, I got the last bit wrong.
The polar bear is chasing you.
You chase the rabbit for food.
You are chasing the fox to move it away from your chickens.
The polar bear is chasing you, to attack you.
Everyone has a different motivation.
Sometimes we chase people because they just robbed our house.
You chase the robber, the robber does not chase you.
What do we do when someone steals our happiness?
We might chase them and catch them, but how do we prove they have our happiness?
Can happiness really be stolen?
Or does the suspected thief replace it with a fake.
They tell you that you should be grateful for their help.
That you are lucky to have them in your life.
They try to confuse the situation by throwing up lots of clever arguments.
But you know that you were happier before they came into your life.
Someone has stolen your joy because when you look into your joy jar, it is nearly empty.
A short while ago it was nearly full.
Very suspicious?
And where did this tinge of sadness come from.
It was not here last week.
It has appeared recently.
What a puzzle, what a mystery?

The end result can manifest as a very real lack of motivation.
Help, I need someone to encourage me..!!

Motivation and encouragement are free.
But that is a problem, because it means you cannot buy it.
If we could buy motivation, we would be fully motivated every day.
We would high-five everyone at work.
We would jump out of bed, full of joy and energy.
So if you cannot buy motivation, you also cannot buy happiness.
You can buy things that make you happy.
You are happy to be able to pay your bills.
But after you have paid your bills and purchased your new car.
What do we do about our happiness.

Maybe we could steal some.
If people can steal our happiness, why not steal theirs.
The problem is this.
You can steal a person’s happiness.
But as that happiness leaves them, it disappears.
You cannot transfer someone else’s happiness into your life.
It has to be given as a gift from that person to you.
You cannot do it by force.

So here is how it works.
You can steal happiness by making someone un-happy.
But you will not be happy.
The trick to receiving happiness is to give it away in the form of a gift.
Everyone knows the joy of giving.
When you give a gift, you feel happy.

Let’s go back to chasing the rabbit and the fox.
You are chasing them for a very logical reason.
To eat the rabbit.
To protect your chickens you are chasing the fox.

Next minute you are chasing a robber down the street.
Why, because they have robbed your house.
Makes sense.

Thoughts work in a similar way.
You can feed on a thought.
You can drive a thought away.
Or a thought can chase you and catch you and imprison you.

So, thoughts can steal our happiness.
Yes, because happiness manifests through your brain.
Here is the big problem.
How to control your thoughts?
This is nearly impossible.

The answer is, look at what you can control.
You can control your actions.
Decide today to be a giver and not a taker.
Decide to be generous.
When you make someone else happy, you get happy.
Or take the short way to happiness that everyone around you is doing.

Buy a dog.

Written by Tony Egar.

Motivate You Upwards

Three things to motivate you endlessly upwards into a new energy level.
The first is, know where the energy comes from.
The second is, fight lethargy before it gets a foothold.
The third is, write “return to sender” on every letter and package that is negative.
Let us move along from damage control, to a new phase that includes these words.
Rebuild, restore and refresh.
Three positive words.

Energy comes from your head or your heart.
It is an invisible wind and therefore you need invisible wings.
Wings that can catch that energy and change it into encouragement.
Yes, a wave of encouragement can cause you to soar into the sky of endless possibilities.
Freedom from lethargy is now possible.

Now let us do what a hot air balloon pilot does.
The person flying a hot air balloon unties the sandbags that are holding it down.
And it naturally ascends upward.
The wings of a bird work because the shape of their wings causes the air to flow over the top of their wing faster than it flows over the bottom of their wing.

Right now, positive and negative words and images are flowing through your mind.
If the negative message gets the upper hand you may go from happy to sad.
But if the positive message gains the upper hand you can go from sad to happy.
Hot air balloons work because hot air is lighter than cold air.
More hot air than cold air and you fly.
More cold air than hot air and you fall.
Two different ways to fly.
Two different reasons for things to fly.

Happy thoughts work like hot air and they lift you up.
Sad thoughts work like cold air and weigh you down.
To fly the hot air balloon you turn on the gas and flames shoot out and heat up the air inside the balloon.
How to do this in our thought life?
How to increase the power of the positive message?
Everyone has tried to do this in a thousand different ways.
Sometimes they succeed and sometimes not.

The two examples of flying have one unpleasant truth.
The bird or plane has to land at some point in time.
And also the balloon always has to come back to earth.
How depressing..!!

It depends on how you view the situation.
Is landing the plane, just a break between flights?
Or are the flights what you do between landings?
Do we live to work or work to live?

The Germans live to work.
One of their comedians says that Germans laugh after the work is done.
But the British laugh before the work is done.
The people in Greece know how to enjoy themselves.
Still the question remains.
How to be more positive and hopefully happier?

Let us break it down into the basics.
Cold ice cream and hot apple pie work well together.
Opposites sometimes go together and make a great meal.
We say, “This works”.

We have a machine to make the ice cream cold.
And a different machine to make the apple pie hot.
Two different machines, doing the opposite.
One machine makes things cold.
The other machine makes things hot.
Yet both are doing a good job.

Usually, we say negative thoughts are bad and positive thoughts are good.
We have an oven and a fridge, but both are good.
Perhaps negative thoughts just have a different job.
And positive thoughts also have a different job.

Like the brake and accelerator on your car.
They do the opposite job, but both are good.
A car is designed to move and stop and then move again and stop.

What if humans are designed to be happy and then sad and then happy again?
Suddenly negative thoughts are just doing their job.
Their job is to slow you down.
And then our positive thoughts get us going again.

We feel bad if we get sad and depressed.
Our goal is to be happy all the time.
But what if we are not designed to be happy all the time?

Maybe we are designed to operate like our car.
Happy, then sad, then happy again.

If you are flying high at the moment, don’t worry about landing with a thud.
If you are sad at the moment, maybe this is temporary.

Autumn, Winter, Spring, Summer.
Decide what season you are in right now.
You are only ever two seasons away from Spring or Summer.

Unless you live at the North or South Pole?

Written by Tony Egar.