Category Archives: Marriage

The Mystery of Gravity

Every time you jump, you experience gravity.
It pulls you back down to the ground.
Without gravity, you’d float off into the atmosphere.
We see gravity at work in our lives every day.
We see the evidence, but the mystery is still there.
Even with several well-received theories attempting to explain why a book falls to the ground…they’re still just theories.
The mystery of gravity is still unexplained.

In my last year of high school, my favourite class was physics.
We were learning how and why everything works.
Until we got to gravity!
I was shocked to discover that my very clever physics teacher did not know the answer.
Gravity is so simple;
I thought the scientists would have found out by now why gravity does what it does.
We see it, we believe it, and yet we don’t understand it.
How can that be?
Is it part spiritual, part material?

Gravity works in our emotional life.
We stir ourselves up on the inside to get motivated,
then along comes gravity in the form of negativity.
Negative thoughts or experiences do their work and bring us down.
Here is another mystery, if you leave your garden unattended why do weeds take over?
Why doesn’t the garden prosper by itself?
Why does it need constant attention?
None of these questions would need to be answered if we didn’t suffer from an ailment called curiosity.
Curious people can find themselves being frustrated by a lack of answers.
If you are not curious, then you don’t care.
But you do care, don’t you?
When we care, it means we are interested.
And interested people are motivated people.

When life tries to drag you down, your curiosity causes you to lift your eyes and open your mind to ask the question in a fresh way.
Sometimes a question which has no satisfactory answer can lead you to ponder a new question that you have never thought of before.
In other words, you can just go around the unanswered question which is blocking your way.

As you get older a lot of mysteries are already solved, such as:
What is it like to fall in love?
How does it feel to have children?
What career will I have?
Will they find the Titanic?

As old mysteries are solved, new ones surface, such as:
What is it like to fall out of love?

Now I have got your attention!
People fall out of love when they get bored, and that happens because they lose interest, and that happens because they aren’t curious about their loved one any more.

Last night my wife and I were home alone having dinner, it was the 26th of January which was a public holiday called “Australia Day”.
Our dinner was going along pleasantly enough until we spontaneously told each other a story from our childhood that we had never shared before in over 30 years of marriage.
The stories were not ground shaking, but they were interesting.
We discovered a tiny bit of something new about each other and I could sense both of us falling in love all over again.

Love is the biggest mystery of all!

Here is my theory on how to stay in love. It’s just a theory.
See your loved one as a mystery… and then see yourself as the only person in the universe with the keys to unlock them in the fullest way possible.
Now you are on an adventure where the discoveries are endless.
Life is exciting again.
You are a person on a mission.

Curiosity is an elixir of youth. Re-discover it!

Just remember… be curious about your wife, not your friends wife.

Tony Egar

My Secret of Driving Backwards

My Secret of Driving Backwards.
I first discovered my desire for driving backwards while driving the tractor on my family’s farm.
When I saw someone driving a car backwards on a public road I was shocked.
There were other people just like me.
People who feel like me.

I decided to tell my parents about my secret.
They were not happy.
They told me it was illegal to drive backwards.
So I became politically active.
Our numbers grew and finally we got the law changed.
Society also changed their attitude.
We were no longer told we were wrong.
It was no longer a sin.

Even some religious people and their leaders accepted us.
What a weak response they had.
They knew their Book forbids driving backwards.
So they just ignored what was in their Book.
If their God is real why is he so relaxed about our behaviour?
It seemed like everyone was okay with what we do.
We started to influence young drivers to consider driving backwards.
The media gave us a lot of attention because we were interesting.
We seemed to be everywhere.

But the conservatives opposed us all the way.
They said it was, “not natural to drive backwards”.
They said,” cars were designed to be driven forwards”.
They said there was a judgement day.
We did not care.
We all agreed we could do anything we wanted.
When we wanted and how we wanted.
Our argument was, “We love to drive backwards”.
How can something you love be wrong?
If you love it…it must be okay.

The conservatives said there will be more accidents.
But we replied, “We will drive carefully”.
If we respect their right to drive forwards, shouldn’t they respect our right to drive backwards?
Now the car makers were making cars that could go either way.
What a victory we were enjoying.
Everyone was congratulating us for standing up for our rights.

In the middle of this wonderful atmosphere, I decided to check the facts about car design.
I looked up the history of cars and found a man called Henry Ford.
He was credited with being the father of the modern car.
I discovered that all cars were originally designed to be driven forwards.
This made me think about the negative results of driving backwards.
First of all it takes a lot of effort.
I did have a sore neck and back.
It was hard to drive that way after the initial thrill wore off.

One day Mr Ford visited me in a dream and told me to repent before I wasted my life going the wrong way.
Here is what he said, “Some people don’t like… the number 13.
When they build high rise buildings they call the thirteenth floor number 14.
But that does not change which floor is really the thirteenth floor.
It just changes the name.”

When I woke up I realised Mr Ford was giving me a message.
No matter how hard you try… you cannot make driving backwards normal even if you call it normal.
Changing the law does not make an unnatural lifestyle…natural.

You cannot argue against the original design.
Driving backward will always be abnormal.
I do not want to admit it, but even though I like driving backwards.

I knew in my heart of hearts that something was wrong.
But I had built my house of cards and I was not going to repent.

In the end I decided that I could live a lie… as long as everyone around me supported that lie.

The truth is very unpopular at the moment.
Even some of the religious folk have turned away from their Book.
And voted for a lie.

Written by Number 13